When Do You Say No?

[cs_content][cs_section parallax="false" style="margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;"][cs_row inner_container="true" marginless_columns="false" style="margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;"][cs_column fade="false" fade_animation="in" fade_animation_offset="45px" fade_duration="750" type="1/2" style="padding: 0px;"][cs_text]For every YES you've ever said, there existed the possibility to say NO. I know darling -- sometimes it doesn't feel like a choice. And it always is. Maybe the consequences of saying no weren't appealing, and yet, it's still a choice to say yes or no. Every day I say yes to lots of things -- and I'm committed to saying no at least as often. Because NO is perhaps one of the most powerful words in my vernacular. It frees me up for the 'hell yeahs.'

Saying no, and meaning it, requires a level of discernment. It requires conviction and clarity.

Adele displayed this beautifully by saying NO to Pepsi and the NFL, when turning down the invitation to perform the half-time show. I adore her for being so bold and clear about her decision. Most people would say yes, but she's not 'most people.'

In her ginormous NO, her fans have found her even more endearing, because it's real and in alignment with her persona. She said "I know I'm not Beyoncé." How great is that? She is super clear about who she is and who she isn't, and isn't about to act like somebody else would. That, my friends, is discernment at its finest.

What do you say YES to, when in your heart of hearts, it's really a NO? Could you love your life a little more if you cut that practice out? Whether you do it gracefully or emphatically, saying NO is often where your power is hiding.

Say what you mean -- and mean what you say. (I think we learned that in kindergarten, yes?)[/cs_text][/cs_column][cs_column fade="false" fade_animation="in" fade_animation_offset="45px" fade_duration="750" type="1/2" style="padding: 0px;"][x_image type="none" src="http://coachcharrise.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Say-No.jpg" alt="" link="false" href="#" title="" target="" info="none" info_place="top" info_trigger="hover" info_content=""][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section parallax="false" style="margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;"][cs_row inner_container="true" marginless_columns="false" style="margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;"][cs_column fade="false" fade_animation="in" fade_animation_offset="45px" fade_duration="750" type="1/1" style="padding: 0px;"] [/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]